Manic Monday

Manic Monday | 7.11.16

July 11, 2016


Refusing to sit in the tubby.  Holding me hostage on the floor next to her crib.  Spitting out her dinner.

I’ve been feeling one step behind the curve with 14 month (!) old Maisie lately.  The last ten days have brought standing room only in the bathtub, insane crying (whatever you’re imagining…it’s worse) at bedtime and a suddenly picky appetite.  The bath time and food thing I can handle – the bedtime situation, I cannot.

Tonight, we go to war.

In my corner:  earplugs, a pillow to cry into and alcohol.  Wish me luck!


BABY WATCH 2016!!!!  My California brudder’s wife is now 5 days overdue with my niece and I’m sooooo exciteddddddddddd and completely on the edge of my seat.  Has anyone invented a teleportation device?  I’m gonna need one very soon so I can meet this little lady…the pictures simply won’t do.


Returning violence for violence multiplies violence,
adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness:
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Lastly,  I just wanted to send big hugs to all my fellow Americans – especially those with young families.  It’s a scary time to have little ones!

Manic Monday | 3-28-16

March 28, 2016


“Not now, Mother.  I’m very busy.”

Maisie’s first Easter.  Hippity hop!

We were up and out by 8:45 a.m. to make it to church with Great Grandma, followed by brunch at Nana and Papa’s and then a “pop in” at Aunt Alicia’s on our way home.  I’m exhausted even thinking about it.  It was hard to ignore every cell in my body screaming at me to have a laid back day at home but I’m glad we powered was a super swell day in the hood.


Speaking of Easter, guess what happened in the car on the way to church?  I noticed that I have a lot of gray hair.  Like, an insane amount of gray hair for someone who is 32 years old.  I am going to try to find a way to Loreal the crap out of my head this week but the most disturbing thing about this is not that I have so much gray hair, but that I didn’t even notice it until now.  What goes on?

Anyway, I tried to google a possible solution that will really cover them and discovered that having gray hair is “in” – so I’m basically the coolest person ever.  I also look exactly like the girl in this picture.  Twins!


Last and most definitely least.

The boogies.

If I google “10 month old baby runny nose” one more time I might literally lose my mind.  Maisie has now seen two different doctors because of these stupid boogies.  The most recent one said (after I explained that she has had a non-stop runny nose for over 2 months) “If it doesn’t go away in a week then come back.”  That moment was…difficult.  It was like an episode of the Twilight Zone.  Inside my mind I was shaking her and screaming “DON’T YOU GET IT!?  AREN’T YOU LISTENING TO ME!?  THEY WONT BE GONE IN A WEEK…THEY NEVER GO AWAY.”

In the meantime my poor girl is so traumatized from having her nose (which is red, raw and bloody by the end of the day) constantly wiped that she cries if I even go near a box of tissues.  I feel so helpless and frustrated.

So this is my plea for advice.  Moms.  ANYONE.  Could it be allergies?  Her boogies are mostly clear and just relentlessly run all day.  For over 2 months.  We’ve tried saline spray, humidifier in her room, vick’s vapor rub and nothing has worked at all.  Help!

Manic Monday | 2-29-16

February 29, 2016

Happy Leap Day!

Things in my life have been insane lately and I haven’t had much time to post anything other than a few pictures of Maisie.  So here’s a quick recap of what’s been going on…


My brother Jimmy got married in San Francisco over the weekend.  When you grow up in a big family, as I did, there are cliques and sub cliques within your own nuclear unit.  Jimmy and I are “Irish Twins” – meaning my Mother gave birth to him 3 days before I turned 1 (!?…I know).  We were always really close growing up and still are to this day.  I was feeling allllll the feelings seeing him so happy with Trinity.

I went to the wedding solo and left Joe and Maisie at home.  What a weird feeling to be surrounded by your family – as you knew it for the first 31 years of your life – but to feel endlessly drawn to your family on the other side of the country.

I suppose at some point in motherhood you reach a stage where a weekend away from your baby or kids might feel rejuvenating and amazing.  After a few tear-filled FaceTime sessions with Maisie I think it’s safe to say I am nowhere near that point.

Anyway, 5 weddings in 8 years (4 in the last 4!).  We are all married.  Now what?

Don’t answer that.



You guys.  Let me tell you why I love my husband.

Last Friday was Jimmy’s wedding but it was also my 32nd birthday.  Gee wiz.

I got home late Saturday night and Joe handed me a card (and a pint of Tom and Jerry’s peanut butter cup ice cream but that’s neither here nor there).  I opened it nervously while my mind raced trying to guess what might be inside…”Concert tickets?  I guess we can try to ask someone to watch the baby.  Sigh.  I’m too tired to go to a concert.”  Long story short the card was empty.  It turns out my gift is this…

Two cleaning ladies are coming to our house this weekend to “deep clean” the entire house!!!!!!

I’m sure there are girls out there that would be horrified by this gift.  I, however, cannot explain how excited I am.

After spending all winter cooped up in the house, the state of things has started to make me feel like an insane person.  Day in and day out the dust bunnies, the carpets that need to be vacuumed, THE BATHROOM, the grime on the stove have been slowly chipping away at my sanity.  Joe and I often work opposite schedules and there just.isn’t.time to clean.

Could I spend 2 hours scrubbing the bathroom on a Wednesday night?  Probably.  But after waking up at 6:00 a.m., working all day, picking up Maisie from daycare and then getting her home, fed and asleep by myself I have little energy left.  Like I can throw in some laundry or load that dishwasher and then I collapse in a heap somewhere.

ANYWAY.  This is one of the most thoughtful gifts Joe has ever gotten me.  Not just because it’s something we all need desperately – but because it’s probably the one thing I WANT more than anything right now.

If that doesn’t make me sound 32 years old, I don’t know what will 🙂


Manic Monday | 12-28-15

December 28, 2015

I decided to start segregating and organizing my digital life a little bit and I already feel like Monica from friends when Chandelier is naming the types of towels she has in her bathroom…Personal, Business, Personal Blog.

Nonetheless – here is a link to my new Facebook page, if you’d like to follow along there 😉

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Baby brudder is getting mawwwied this week!  So, so excited for these two.  And also ridiculously excited to be in the presence of an open bar and an amazing cover band without a baby.  The headlines will be fantastical: SISTER OF THE GROOM SMASHES BOTTLE OVER HER OWN HEAD ON THE DANCE FLOOR.  Just kidding.  Kind of.


Also, I CAN’T STOP looking at the pictures from my last post.  Like, literally can’t stop.  Love those girls!


Manic Monday | 12/21/15

December 21, 2015

shyIt has come to my attention in the last week or so that people (like, A LOT more people than I thought) are actually reading this blog…which is equal parts cool and scary.  Whoever you all are, HELLO and THANK YOU for following along on all of my random triumphs and misadventures!



Maisie has her first nasty cold and yesterday was pretty roughhhhhh.  As much as I enjoyed the snuggles, my girl is usually trying to dive off my lap like a kamikaze, so I knew she was really feeling poopy when she just wanted to be a mush on my shoulder for most of the afternoon.  She seems to be a bit better this morning though, thank goodness.

Nothing worse than seeing your baby sick.  Oh wait…there is something worse.  Having to go to work when your baby is sick.  Someday she will understand why it is that Mommy works, but today is not that day.  Hoping this (short) week goes super quick!



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Maisie’s first DFC (Dunbar Family Christmas) was this weekend!  It was really cool for her to finally get to meet all of my aunts/uncles/cousins – who all, of course, feel like they already know her thanks to my relentless picture posting.  In fact, this year Superlatives were awarded to all the cousins and mine was “Most likely to take a picture of you without you knowing it and post it on Facebook.”  I happen to fully embrace my identifier.  All hail Maisie, the Queen of Facebook!


December-21-300x336Finally, this is me signing off until this weekend.  I want to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas!!!  Sooooo many pictures of Maisie’s first Christmas to follow!


Manic Monday | 10/26/15

October 26, 2015


Detox update: It’s been a week.  I have logged into my account twice to link business blog posts.  Both times I literally had a physical reaction (so embarrassing) to finally having access to my newsfeed.  Each time, I allowed myself 5 minutes of frenzied scrolling and clicking before I once again deactivated my account.  The app is still deleted off my phone – which has been the most crippling thing to overcome.

I have started to kind of leave my phone on a counter or in my bag when I’m home.  I really have no reason to constantly check it anymore.  I don’t know how long this will last but, for now, I’m enjoying the more-focused time with Maisie.  I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I feel like I’m missing things though – during a 5 minute session I saw a picture my friend Kaitlin posted of her baby and I got mad that I didn’t get to see it sooner.  I’m torn!


Most babies will look sad in situations like these but thanks to Maisie’s oh-so-expressive Joe Dugan eyebrows she looks MAD!  “How dare you leave me Mommy!?  Not cool, bro.”

Sleep update: I initially thought it was teething, a sleep regression or both but after 7 straight nights we identified that the real problem was separation anxiety.  Maisie would only fall asleep if she could be near me and every time she woke up and saw that Mommy was gone, the entire process started all over again.

Something happens to a person who is sitting on the floor for 45 minutes at 11 o’clock at night with one arm wedged between the slats of a crib softly begging a baby to fall asleep.  While it’s so very heartbreakingly sweet that Maisie is suddenly so desperate to be near me, I realized that the current state of things was unacceptable.

My sister advised the Ferber method.  I spent half of yesterday researching it.  I wrote notes down.  Joe got home and I was SO ready.  We followed our normal bedtime routine except this time, Joe brought her upstairs and put her in her crib.  I set a timer and braced myself for the screams anndddddd silence.  That stinker went right to sleep!  I don’t know if it’s because Joe put her down and not me.  I don’t know if it was just a weird phase and she figured it out on her own.  However, I’m cautiously optimistic!  99% of the time I’m the one putting her to bed, so we’ll see how things go the rest of the week.  :Fingers crossed:



On Halloween, Joe and I are both off.  I have been looking forward to this day for weeks.  I am giddy even thinking about it.  There will be no errand running, house cleaning, function attending, LIE driving, yard work, photo editing or bill paying permitted.  We are going to wake up, make a massive batch of chocolate chip pancakes and spend the day with our baby girl.  I bought Maisie a costume, and when I put it on her I will probably have a cuteness-induced heart attack.  It was nice knowin’ ya!

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And finally, this.  Just this.



Manic Monday | 8/31/15

August 31, 2015


When you have a baby girl, everyone is REALLY excited to buy cute little baby girl clothes.  The amount of generosity we received from friends and family makes me blush.  Anyways, as a result of said generosity (combined with bags and bags of hand-me-downs from cousin Claire), I have yet to purchase even one article of clothing for my own daughter.  Even though Maisie has a massive pile of size 6 month clothes waiting for her to grow into, I decided to take a peek on the Baby Gap website with the hope of selecting a special outfit or two for her to wear this fall.  Big mistake.  My heart started pounding and before I knew it I had almost $400 worth of clothes in my shopping cart.  I had to slowly back away.  The Gap really does it right.  The pinks are all super soft and make me swoon when paired with gray or navy.  Hopefully I can try again and reign it in a little bit next time.  Baby girl Moms – how do you deal!?


3039494-poster-p-2-weird-name-stellar-production-why-peaky-blinders-is-the-years-most-immersive-crime-seriLatest obsession:  Peaky Blinders.  It’s a Netflix original series about a gang in post-WWI Birmingham, England. Despite my begging and pleading Joe has yet to “catch up” so he can watch along with me.  My coveted binge-watching time is limited to the rare weeknights when he works late.  Is there anything better than being really into a book or show and finally finding the time to lay down and indulge?  Methinks not.



Joe’s cousin Rebecca recently got her drivers license and drove allllllllll the wayyyyyyy out yesterday and spent the day with us.  It was heavenly to a) have company and b) have a helper.  Maisie the nudie bird peed everywhere right as I was about to put her in the bath and before I could even ask Beck was grabbing the paper towels and following the trail of pee pee.  What a trooper!  She also helps me stay up on what the cool kids are saying these days.  For example: I know now what “on fleek” means.  I’m hip.  I’m with it.


And finally…let’s face it…this was inevitable.  Since tomorrow is September I am officially obligated to tell you how excited I am to dust off the Ugg Boots, grab a Pumpkin Spice something and go completely white-girl over the fact that it’s almost Fall.  Every year (for the last 5 or 6 years) Joe and I have visited a big pumpkin patch here on the North Fork.  I remember daydreaming during the last few trips about going with our yet-to-be-conceived-or-born children someday.  And here we are!  Can’t wait to cover Maisie in multiple layers of cableknit and plop her in the middle of some pumpkins for a photo op 🙂

Manic Monday | 8/24/15

August 24, 2015

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First of all, thanks for all the awesome feedback on Facebook after my last post.  I have been kind of feeling like a self-important dork for writing this blog at all so it was really cool to hear that a) people liked it and b) I’m not the only one stressing out over these kinds of issues.


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Coming Clean: This is what I had for lunch today.  When I was pregnant, Joe packed my lunch for work every day and I got really spoiled.  I only get a 30 minute break so there just never seems to be enough time to procure something that has even a shred of nutritional value.  I’ve decided to challenge myself to pack lunch everyday for the next week.


Maisie has been breaking out in (what I think is) a teething rash and it’s making my heart sad…although it doesn’t seem to bother her in the least.  She is so drooly these days and puts her hands in her mouth constantly…then when she is tired she rubs drool all over her eyes and the rest of her face.  Off to the pediatrician we shall go if it doesn’t clear up soon.

Also – we got to hang out with my brother Jimmy and his fiancé Trinity over the weekend – which was super swell and nice.  They live in California so we don’t get to spend nearly as much time together as we would like.


Finally, my Grandmother and her sisters turned 95 over the weekend.  Together they are the oldest living triplets in the United States of America.  Put that in your pipe and smoke it!

They got interviewed by a local news affiliate and I can’t even watch it the entire way through without getting all misty eyed.   So amazing.




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